All of us like to make a good impression, especially when we like someone or we have a certain purpose. But based on this innocent intention derive all the patterns of people-pleasing, being fake and distancing ourselves from our own preferences and values.

We start adopting other people’s ideas, we go to a university our parents wanted us, and we keep a good image in front of others, starting from instagram perfection to avoiding heavy conversations with our closed ones.

We want to be good, to be the heroes, but he dehumanise ourselves, by striving to show perfection. Truth is, there is a beauty in human imperfection and vulnerability, which is inspiring for others and heart-opening!

The idea of perfection is a fantasy

To be true, you will never be perfect, at least not in the way that the mind understands it.

So it’s better to start from where you are and don’t beat yourself up for mistakes, for things you forget, or promised you would do and didn’t.

Just acknowledge for next time that you will try to do better and move forward.

You can apologize if you feel like it, with honesty and courage, without excusing yourself too much. How relieving!

Speak to your inner child

You know that many times, even though we have adult bodies, emotionally we are more like children.

Speaking to yourself as you would to a child, with love and compassion, can soothe your fears. When we were little, our parents would punish us for bad grades.

Now we tend to apply the same system to cope with our mistakes and to reward ourselves when we achieve something.

But you are much more than that, much more than a trained set of emotions that is educated with fear or praise.

You are good exactly as you are and you don’t need to do anything special for that.

Are you better or worse than others?

Simply stop comparing yourself.

Deep down you know that you can’t be like someone else, and why would you? there is a purpose why you are why you are, and there’s a magic and a uniqueness in it.

Another mistake we do is that we compare our weaknesses with other people’s strengths.

Be realistic and consider the entire context when you feel tempted to compare yourself to someone.

How are you, then?

How can you be yourself, if you don’t know yourself?

You’re not perfect, we cleared out that.
You don’t need to prove to anyone that you’re imperfect, that’s for sure.

And you have a unique set of qualities and talents that make you the amazing person that you are.

Now, you need to discover them! only then you can set the basis for your inner confidence and acknowledge yourself.

This is the biggest step and it requires, work, patience and awareness, but it’s totally worth it.

Dare to get to know yourself, love yourself, and show yourself to the others…exactly how you are!